Sex toys, fun, naughty ideas introduction, when you already have a partner can be an intimidating task, mainly when it has never been discussed before. You don’t want your partner wondering if they are no longer enough for you or thinking they are not doing it right in the bedroom anymore. Research suggests that after many years with the same partner sometimes things can get a little bit stale. It is not always the case; it can be merely trying to give something new a try for fun. For these reasons and more many couples introduce adult toys to the bedroom and trust us it is nothing but more fun! Exploring in the bedroom is healthy and good for our sexual wellness.
Although, here at (Y) we are fully aware that it could be a little bit of an awkward conversation starter, and that’s what this blog post is for.
Do your research
You can only convince another person about something, you well researched. Read about toys and check out the ones that fit your interest and also consider your partner when researching couples sex toy, don’t go ordering a giant dildo, that can intimidate your partner and send the wrong signals, that maybe they are not doing the job quite well. You don’t want insecurities like this surfacing at the new stage of toys introduction to the bedroom.
Make the process gradual
Introduction of sex aid into the bedroom should take a gradual process, to give room for your partner to ease into it. You can take your time talking about it to him/her about it. Ask them an opinion about toys and the introduction of it into the bedroom. Most importantly, remember not to be pushy about it; you can ease the process by sending them those links to the intimacy product you find online and let them read more about it.
Explain your reasons
Reassure your partner that introducing a toy isn’t about replacing them but about adding spice to your sexual life, just like trying a new restaurant. And most importantly let them understand that it can add another dimension to your sexual life and also spice things up in the bedroom.
Be a team player
Unless your partner truly loves spontaneous surprises in the bedroom, don’t simply show up at the bedroom or sneak out a toy from underneath your pillow mid-way thrusting. Instead, have an open conversation before you’re in the bedroom – when sex isn’t on the table – to propose your idea and gauge your partner’s interest, giving them an equal amount of control in the relationship. Let your partner enjoy being part of the experience. Whether it’s picking out the toy to try together or letting your partner control the toy the first time, make sure that you’re keeping it a couples’ activity. Invite your partner to help you explore the best ways to use it. If you trust their taste, you can even grant them naming rights.
With this openness in mind, it might help to keep your first playtime somewhat improvisational. Make fun with your new doodad a collaborative experience and invite your partner to help you explore the best ways to use it. This will keep expectations low, and the fun factor high. Versatile, non-phallic toys like Yasmin
are friendly-looking and quick to pick up or put away, making them great options for partners looking to choose their own adventure. While Yoana
with its distinctive and deliberate shape, this is a toy on a mission: find your G-spot and rock your world via the kind of unparalleled stimulation you never even knew existed.
Here at (Y), we believe happiness starts from sexual wellness. We believe everyone should have the tools to master their pleasure and explore their sexuality on their terms; ultimately, it’s our duty to our partners to respect their boundaries. If yours gives you a hard “No,” at least ask for feedback as to why. Hopefully, the experience will make you both more comfortable sharing new ideas in the future. You may even find that they come around on their own.